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Selena Gomez & Rihanna Hurting Their Self-Esteem Dating Justin & Chris

Selena and Rihanna you both need to love yourselves more and sincerely accept that you deserve more than two-timing Justin Bieber and Chris Brown.

Selena Gomez and Rihanna, you are both gorgeous, talented, intelligent women who don't deserve to be treated like doormats by your boyfriends Justin Bieber and Chris Brown.

You both have millions of fans and plenty of male admirers but meanwhile you are choosing to accept second best relationships, and you need to ask yourselves why.

Selena, why do you keep taking Justin Bieber back when he has now stepped out with Victoria's Secret supermodel Barbara Palvin twice?

First he was photographed and videotaped backstage gawking at Barbara at the Victoria's Secret show taping in New York on Nov. 7 and then taking her to The Lion King, the next night.

Next, "Justin and Barbara were together in Miami," a friend of Justin's told Life Style, when he was there performing in the Jingle Ball on

Dec. 8!

No Wonder Selena Gomez Was Furious With Justin Bieber

Selena, you were furious with Justin for publicly practically drooling over Barbara and other Victoria's Secret models, and you broke up with him after this.

Then you broke up with him AGAIN after he hurtfully spent an evening, Dec. 13. with your ex Nick Jonas.

That was supposed to be IT! The final straw. The last time you'd be taking him back. But then…you were sighted just days later boarding a private jet with Justin on Dec. 19.

According to a Hollywoodlife.com source, you may be getting back together with him because you get "weak" around Justin.

Oh Selena! And oh Rihanna! We hear through a source close to you Rihanna, that you haven't dis-invited Chris Brown from coming to your family Christmas get-together in the Barbados even though he saw his ex-girlfriend Karreuche Tran behind your back in Paris for a few romantic days.

Ladies — what does it take for you to dump these dudes who don't deserve you?

What's Wrong With Rihanna and Selena Gomez?

"They both have low self-esteem," explains Beverly Hills psychiatrist Dr. Carole Lieberman, author of the book, Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets.

"It doesn't matter that they're big stars, they can still have self-esteem issues, especially when it comes to men," says Dr. Lieberman. "It has to do with their childhoods' — Rihanna grew up with an abusive dad and Selena had an absentee father."

They haven't had good male role models. According to relationship expert, Dr. Gilda Carle, both Rihanna and Selena are allowing themselves to be in emotionally hurtful relationships because "they don't see themselves as deserving of the full enchilada. They are willing to accept crumbs."

Selena, Rihanna — this just isn't right. You both deserve to have men who worship the ground you both walk on.

But when you both keep going back to men who are publicly disrespecting and humiliating you by seeing other women, you are making Justin and Chris value you even less.

Are Justin Bieber and Chris Brown Respecting Their Girlfriends At All?

"When they keep making up and breaking up, they're ruining their chances of having good relationships because these guys will respect them even less," warns Dr. Lieberman.

And I have to agree. Ladies, you are just encouraging Justin and Chris to take you even more for granted.

If you're not valuing yourselves and saying, "I deserve" a loyal boyfriend, then they will never value you!

"These beautiful young women who have everything on the ball are giving away their power," adds Dr. Gilda, the 30-Second Therapist for the TodayShow.com.

I couldn't agree more.

I know it can be really confusing to you both, Selena and Rihanna, because Justin and Chris keep chasing after you, after you do break up with them — only to disrespect you again.

Why Don't Justin and Chris Break Up With Selena and Rihanna?

So why are they doing this? Why won't they just let you girls go?

"Justin probably is in a confused state. On one hand, he's young — just 18 — and he's at a time of his life when he wants to sow his wild oats, but then he does love Selena and he sees her as an anchor," believes Dr. Lieberman.

And honestly Selena, he is just 18, and he has millions of young women throwing themselves at him. No matter how much he cares about you, he has a buffet of temptation in front of him at all times.

As for Chris, he also at 23, is in the sowing his wild oats stage of life, and he also has millions of female fans, aside from Karreuche Tran, tempting him. But he may also feel insecure with you Rihanna — not quite sure that you truly will stay with him. He may on some subconscious level be afraid that YOU will leave him again.

"Karreuche is a security blanket, who's not threatening or challenging," believes Dr. Lieberman.

What Selena Gomez and Rihanna Need To Do Now

So ladies — what should you do?

I know it's hard, but you have to dump these unappreciative guys. Dump them and dump them for good.

But you also have to settle in for some serious therapy. Both of you need to get to the bottom of why you're willing to accept second best relationships.

Only then, will you whole heartedly believe that you DESERVE to be #1 with a man you love. And Selena and Rihanna, you do DESERVE it! Believe me.

Don't you agree, HollywoodLifers? Should Selena and Rihanna split from Justin and Chris? Tell me now and vote!